Did you ever feel like asking your parents about the reason behind certain ritual which is followed? If so, did you ever make an attempt to do so ? Most of us are afraid Isn't it ? Eventually we're are trying to pass it on to the next generations with out knowing the exact reason or even thinking of the validity of the concept in the present situation. It is like we're made to blindly follow certain rituals and we're passing on the same with out even having a thought about it. Remember JJ Thompson's watermelon model of an atom which was later disproved by various other scientists. It happened because the model proposed was questioned, the reasons were discussed, resulting in better models and eventually a model which was universally accepted. Even today if you disprove it, the scientific world will always welcome you with your new findings with proofs off course you need to go through a long journey. Now coming to certain religious, community based rituals and superstitions, are they valid even today? If it does not cause any harm to anyone or anything, It's completely fine, but certain rituals are ruthless and baseless, just followed on the grounds of religious sentiments which are again debatable. Certain rituals which are causing harm to environment, animals or humans cannot be just accepted. They need to be questioned, and if necessary abolished. We have read about Raja Ram Mohan Roy who had played a very important role in abolishing Sati ( A brutal ritual where a woman is set to fire along with her husband's dead body). I am very sure that it did not happen on day one. He must have gone through a lot, but just his persistence payed off. Today we speak so high of him. What really matters is the ability and the courage to question injustice. I am sure that God will not encourage injustice or baseless hazardous rituals. There are number of such baseless rituals and superstitions around us. I wanted to express my disagreement to certain rituals and superstitions which have disheartened me in the recent past and also seek answers for failure of certain concepts associated with religion. My intention is not to hurt anyone's feelings but only to question certain things which doesn't make sense and know reasons for certain practices so that I could practice with more respect and devotion.
In my recent trip to Japan I went on a visit to a Arashiyama ( place near Kyoto ). There is a river and a hill and some Buddhist temples around the place. As I am nearing the place I can feel the water flow. I love places with water and as usual I am thrilled. After reaching the place I was awestruck looking at the water. They are so clean, litter free and most importantly I see people using dustbins. I just went into thoughts, Can such places exist in India, May be in Himalayas some where far from regular cities but definitely not nearer to Human habitat. I was wondering, we pray to these rivers, we celebrate festivals every 12 years specially on basis of a river ( Pushkaralu ) after all that what we are seeing is polluted rivers. We know the plight of the Mighty Indian River Ganga. The only curse I see is, it flows through Varanasi ( Khasi ). I heard people telling me that the river looks much better before entering Varanasi. Varanasi, The Holy city is in the list of most polluted cities of the world. Recently Andhra Pradesh Government spent huge amounts ( More than 2000 crores as per reports of various media ) on Krishna ( river ) Pushkaralu for cleaning of river banks, providing other needs to devotees etc. Sad fact is till next Krishna Pushkaralu, we keep polluting river, littering around. I had to visit Krishna river to participate in an ritual following my mothers demise. I had to leave my mothers ashes into the river, I just don't want to do it as it also might cause pollution but couldn't say against it. then I had to dip in the river and I could see greenish water with plastic waste floating around. Isn't something fundamentally wrong with our practices ? Aren't we suppose to protect this mighty rivers? Don't you thing this should be given more importance than the importance what we give to the process of this ritual ? Don't you think our ancestors created these rituals so that we protect our natural resources? If some ritual or some practice is abolished or even questioned, there will be immediate response, strikes, hartals ( Sabarimala Issue ) but when the corporate factories are sucking water, releasing their wastes into these rivers, there's seldom response. We need to change, change in understanding the real values behind practices, the validity of these practices in current times. I wanted to share an Incident from my child hood, I was traveling in train to Hyderabad, There's a family sitting next to us, as they went with a conversation with my mom and other family members, I realized that those people are going to attend Godavari Pushkaralu. We are on top of a bridge constructed over Godavari Near Rajamahendravaram, there's also a kid as old as me assosiated with the family next to us and the kid asked where to throw wrapper of some snacks and the reply was appalling. It very natural thing today, throw out of the window. You are on the way to pray to the river and you are not even bothered to throw some plastic waste into the river. Since then there were n number of questions in my mind often suppressed by this so called experienced elders anger. Not any more I have decided to question and follow only those which I feel logical and those which is not causing any harm to anyone or environment.
Many people claim that everything in this nature is a part of God's creation but some people follow some practices which contradict their own statements. 'Periods' very common cycle in women's organ system. But then there is this custom of treating them as an untouchable during that cycle. There are not allowed to touch any one, any thing, they are asked to sit in a corner of a room. During my child hood, my mom was going through that cycle during the time of some festival. So she was not allowed to temple, not allowed to be part of any rituals. I didn't understand, they didn't allow even me to touch my mom. I was 8 year old I guess, I have no clue what's happening, every one is just shouting at me not to touch mom, I didn't listen I just went into my mom's arms. They shouted at me for little while and they left for temple. I felt happy to be with my mom rather than going to temple with bunch of illogical so called experienced people. I never accepted this particular custom but I always wanted to know the reason behind this. One day my friend's mom said in the olden days women were used to do a lot of work and in general energy levels of women go down during periods, and also there were not enough protection for them, so they are asked to sit at certain place so that they get enough rest. Such a noble thought but as years passed on it became a blind faith with out motive. I think today there is no point in practicing the same. We need to introspect and question the validity of a practice in current times.
How you'll feel when you loose someone close? I feel that is biggest ever loss which can happen to any person. I was in Japan, I received a call from my brother !!! I was on a day trip to Osaka, roaming from Free ways to typical Japanese streets. We are crossing a bridge when I received the call, I felt my heart beat, Water turned black !!! My mom passed away, I need to travel back to India. I think that's the most confusing, nervous period I have ever faced, I had to choose and I had chosen to be strong for my family, I came back saw my Mom's body lying down without life, just said to myself that your mom doesn't want you to cry rather help your family face the greatest ever loss. I managed the night without falling, next day some rituals and practices as usual, I was shocked seeing people shouting at me for not doing certain things in the right way !!! They are not concerned about what I was going through, no one even care !!! People were testing my patience, I just followed what ever I was instructed to do taking some scoldings as well, keeping my Dad and Sis in mind and every thing one last time for mom. Every thing I had taken can only make me stronger cause, not really can bother me after the loss I have faced. So if you loose some one close in your family, you're not supposed to go to temple, not suppose to celebrate festivals for one year !!! I don't mind, I don't care cause I am a person who enjoys celebrating National Festivals more than the religious counter parts. I get immense pleasure when I hoist or even see National Flag flying high and sky and my country never restricted me. Days passed on and our new home which mom always wants to come reached to a completion stage and there come's house warming ceremony. So here's come another idiotic ruthless custom. As it isn't a year since my Mom's demise I shouldn't carry my moms photo into our home. Enough I had seen, this time I need to act, I said to myself that I would not eat in a function which denied my moms presence. It may look childish but I want to make a statement. I didn't eat, It didn't have any impact but I had become even more stronger. I have a question !!! When a person gets utmost depressed ? I think if they loose their loved one's, Don't you think that's when they need support ? When a temple is denying his entry then, I don't find any point in temples being there. On the contrary My country wraps up Indian Flag over a martyr's body saluting his sacrifice. That's how my country respects and how your rituals insult some one who is passed away.
I have more questions to be asked ! I leave the article here as a token of respect to my mom who's been my greatest inspiration, who never got angry when I questioned, who allowed me to be me and never forced anything on me. I salute you mom. Happy Birthday ! You'll be present in my words, in my actions and in my heart. You'll be my strength to question anything which is wrong and in my path to try and follow things which are right rather than things which are easy.
I salute my country and respect the culture and customs my country follows, at the same time I want to take the true values and motives behind certain things rather than blind faith and fear. I don't fear God, I Love him. For me God is this environment and country. If you fail to protect it, you fail your devotion towards God, to be precise you're cheating God. Jai Hind. Satyamevajayate.
More questions will be asked in the coming articles. To be continued .............
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